We Meet at the Colons

During the initial stages of my spiritual awakening, I spent a great deal of time reading questions and answers on Quora, a popular question-and-answer platform that fostered a great deal of spiritual discussions. I am sure I clicked on a link along the way, but one day I started receiving emails from their site with specific and timely questions to some of the things I was asking myself. Each day, my inbox would show an email highlighting a pertinent topic that I was working through, and I would click the link and go down the proverbial rabbit hole. While reading spiritual questions and answers, I noticed the same contributor providing the same advice in a lot of the questions. Richard Martini. He spoke a lot about the afterlife and has written a book called Hacking the Afterlife. A lot of my understanding of how life – and death – works is attributed to his perspective.

One piece of advice I’ll never forget is this: We meet our passed loved ones at the decimals.

Think of the timestamp 11:11. Most people see this as a sign from the angelic realm and leave it at that. However, Martini suggests that we meet our passed loved ones at the decimals, at the colon. The first 11 represents our yard, the living world. The colon is the fence. The second 11 is their yard, the Spirit realm, the afterlife. In their yard, they must slow their frequency down to impart a message. It takes a lot of effort to create sound, so they use images to start. In our yard, we need to quiet the cacophony and raise our vibration to receive the message.

This is why people report visitations when they’re relaxed, asleep, in quietude, unstressed, unbothered. Some don’t need that to bypass the filters – we call these folks mediums. And anyone can be a medium with practice!

The point is that your loved one still exists. They are not gone, they’re just not here. We need to take the time to learn how to communicate with them. It isn’t as hard as one might think. It takes some practice and some common symbolism to help you decipher their messages. With dedication and patience, you’ll develop a language that you understand, and they will lock into those symbols to communicate. This is why mediumship is so personal, as everyone develops their own code to use when working with Spirit. I tend to use a lot of fictional characters, songs, and entertainment from pop culture to connect with Spirit. And of course, memories help immensely as they take you back to that moment with such clarity.

When a loved one passes away, we assume that they are in Heaven and all is well for them. From my interaction with the Spirit realm, there is a period of rest and healing prior to the soul moving onto new and exciting incarnations. (For more info on this concept, see works by Michael Newton.)  During their period of rest, there is also a life review where they compare their life lived to the goals they set out prior to incarnating. It is here that the soul reviews significant trespasses against others. In the review process, the soul will feel the effects their victims felt because of their perpetration. This provides a strong (and humbling) sense of how their actions affected, and possibly stunted, the individual. It is in this phase that many souls struggle and feel shackled by remorse for their actions. Many souls battle through this stage as the pain of their actions - and lack of forgiveness by the victim – can render them hopeless. Think of how your mother’s soul feels when you are complaining to your therapist about something dreadful she did to you in your childhood. Not only did this affect your development in some way, but neither one of you is able to let go of that imprint in your (and her) soul’s journey. Stuck emotions from painful memories keep us trapped in the past, which is not where we want our energy spent. (See works by Dr. Joe Dispenza who teaches the scientific effects this does to our brain and our health.) Talk therapy recreates the event, and our bodies can’t decipher it as a current or past event, so we are reliving the traumas rather than truly releasing them.

One thing I have learned through my ancestral work is that not all ancestors are healed ancestors, and worse yet, not all ancestors are benevolent. It seems hard to believe that a passed loved one may not have your best interests at heart, but I have learned the hard way to differ. Many people are not healed when they pass away and are left with the struggle of healing in the after life. As such, they may become stuck because the opportunities to ask for forgiveness, and to forgive others, has passed. To help our ancestors heal, we need to forgive them. Honest, heart-felt forgiveness.

I know this seems hard, considering you can no longer sit down for coffee and hash it out. But as discussed earlier – we can! We meet at the colons, and this is a great opportunity to help your loved ones heal by holding space for their regrets and providing true, authentic forgiveness.   

When I heard the idea of meeting at the colons - I set to work. Each time I saw an angel number, be it 11:11, 2:22 or 5:55, etc., I stopped what I was doing, calmed my mind and asked, “Is there anyone here with a message for me?” Almost immediately a friend who passed away at the age of 18 came through. I was able to see her face, feel her energy imprint, and receive images from her. I thanked her for her time and continued to ask the question each time I saw angel numbers. She, and others, continue to meet me at the colons without fail.

By meeting at the colons, my mediumship skills have strengthened, and I no longer wait for time-based opportunities to connect with loved ones. Through meditation, journalling, contemplation, dreamwork, prayer, and quietude, I can connect with loved ones, including my mother. Together we have worked through events that hurt me, and events that hurt her, and have offered each other the forgiveness both deserved for our souls’ growth. Forgiving my mother has healed me, and in turn has healed my children, my grandchildren, my great-grandchildren…you get the point.

Do the work. Meet your loved ones at the colons and start the conversation. Help them heal. Help yourself heal. Your ancestors want to be on your team; they just need some help and guidance. Free them (and yourself) through forgiveness.